“God did not promise days without pain, laughter without sorrow, sun without rain, but he did promise the strength for the day, comfort for the tears, and light for the way” …..unknown
How do you celebrate your New Year? Do you have any traditions you hold true? Do you make resolutions? Do you make them religiously at the beginning of the New Year? I am always curious about this. We all know the story, we all know that resolutions ultimately fail. We also know ourselves or others have experienced success making these resolutions. I think the outcome is connected to how we frame the resolutions. Are we reasonable when we make out our lists. Do we set ourselves up to win? Perhaps your resolutions have failure painted all over them from the moment you make them. Do you set yourself up to fail? I think in the past, I have put too many resolutions down on the list, I overwhelmed myself with too many resolutions, I set myself up to fail. Do not misunderstand, plain and simple, too many, yet each one made the list with good intention. The idea of making the list and putting it down on paper is a good thing, it opens one up to the possibilities of those said resolutions. Those resolutions were good thoughts, forces of growth, and the world of endless possibilities. Let’s be realistic about this. We all have room for improvement, but does the resolution list have to be all about improvement and “fixing” things? Perhaps we could frame our resolutions in a different way. I will be making promises to myself. I know it is just a word, a word I like and feel more comfortable with. Promises vs. resolutions. I think I have a better shot at keeping promises to myself rather than succeeding at a resolution. A new way to frame It differently, a way to garner a successful outcome. The promises I am making to myself are an extension of the path that has manifested itself from my experiences over the past year. It is an ongoing process, the journey. I am nowhere near accomplishing what I have set out to do. I will share them here with you as to inspire you to reexamine your resolutions/promises and how you will frame them to enable yourself for success. Consider this long list of resolutions you are planning, are they a stretch? Will they overwhelm you? Are you setting yourself up to fail? What would be the point? I want to clarify here. I am not saying that your resolutions shouldn’t be a stretch, or that that feeling of being overwhelmed is a terrible thing, and certainly I am not saying that you would intentionally set yourself up to fail. I believe that anything worth accomplishing is worth working very hard to achieve. What I am asking you to do is to carefully decide on what you put on your resolution list, how important it is to you, and are you willing to do the work required to succeed? I believe how we frame the process is the start of a wonderful new adventure, Another piece of the puzzle, a continuation of the journey you are already on. Please examine where you are, where you think you are going, and what you need to get there. We travel down the paths of our journeys we are building our lives, learning and enriching ourselves with new ways and rhythms to our music. The point is setting ourselves up to accomplish our resolutions. This is why deciding on what our resolutions are is critical to the process. Firstly we will have to decide that we will take the process seriously and make the necessary commitment to your resolutions or plan on adhering to the promises we make to ourselves. This is a question that begs an answer. Anything can be accomplished if the commitment is there. We must commit to our success, not just make a list of what we would like to accomplish. Decide on what I it is that you want for yourself. What is important for you to be working on. I think a short list of resolutions is what works, whittling down your list down to the essential things you desire to accomplish may spell success.
Here is my essential list of promises I am making to myself:
1.) Work on my practice. What I eat, how I move, what I drink, how I rest and what I think.
2.) Meditate more effectively. Make time to sit and breathe at the same time each day.
3.) Focus on building my business. Set aside a set time each day to grow my business.
See what I mean? Three small promises, they are huge. They are all things I am currently engaged with. My desire is to make the time and the room to grow and improve. Try it – set yourself up to win. Make your resolutions, or your promises to yourself. Get up in your new year and begin, each and every day. Your commitment as you move forward into your new year will energize you as you peruse what is important and precious to you.
Oh, one more thing: Love Yourself. No one lifts you up better than you. Loving yourself simply make your life better, it fosters all positive things. It makes you easy to love. It says I am worth it. It says I consider myself as valuable. The very best part of loving yourself, once you hold that as a truth is is absolutely impossible to hate yourself. Loving myself has fostered growth. I love my life and the people in it more fully and completely. Loving myself is a blessing. Loving myself makes the path (journey) less of a struggle, and more like a joy. It puts me in a wonderful place to to keep my promises to myself. Living in my own skin is pleasurable. It fits! Be sure to take a peek in the mirror and tell yourself how grateful you are for just who you are. Now for those resolutions/promises………….
“Resolve to never criticize or downgrade yourself, but instead rejoice that you are fearfully and wonderfully made.” Elizabeth George
Always dazzle, Karen
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